Do you have a type?

As a teenager with the onset of puberty and the supercharging of the hormones I realized I had a 'type'. I was attracted to boys who were slim and tall...oh my word, they were a sight to behold. The first three guys I ever dated, fit the profile well. Taller than I was and almost whip thin, interesting considering I am on the thick side (was called slim thick recently), but I couldn't see myself with any man who was on the thick, chunky, well rounded side...

As time progressed my 'type' changed and I moved from the tall, thin ones to the not so tall but low haired ones. Guys with grazed, low hair made me swoon and I went a gag gag over them. There was just something about the hair, or lack of hair that was so appealing. 

The thing about these 'types' though is that they never lasted for long, like a star falling from the sky, their brightness blazed but wore off as quickly as a graze across the sky. Their personalities and mine just never meshed. Beyond the physical attraction and fitting snugly into the 'type' box, their depth (for me anyways) wasn't far beyond the surface. 

A far cry now from being a teenager, something dawned on me and maybe it's the fact that I haven't slept properly in probably a week and should be studying instead of writing this, but yea I had a moment. My 'type' is no longer based on the physical. Yes I still have a 'type' but I am yet to meet the man who can fit the part, some have come quite close in recent times. I am not seeking perfection, I know I certainly am not perfect and as such do not expect that from someone else. I do want someone who has some sort of physical appeal, but now it has gone beyond that. Here's what my 'type' looks like now; I want a man who is  

• God fearing!
• can carry an intelligent conversation, 
• but can also engage in humour which borders on the perverse. 
• a man who has respect for his mother (the saying is true, how a man treats his mother, is an indication of how he will treat you.) 
• a man who will allow me to freely express myself, even if that means breaking into random songs at the most inappropriate of times and the most unusual of songs (Sesame Street and random soca) 
• a man who is also able to freely express himself when he's around me. 
• someone who values my opinions, even when and if they are not in agreement with what they think should be done 
• but is also willing to do the same for me. 
• someone who will be my friend...in good times and in bad...especially in PMS (yea that's a tmi, sorry) 

Quite a list of expectations, aren't they. But just as I was able to find men who were skinny and tall or those with the grazed low hair. I know that I will find this one 'type'. Call it growing up, I don't know, but I really think that once you connect with someone beyond the superficial level then the possibility exists that you could have a great thing in the making. Of course when that happens for me, I will let you know. In the meantime, I continue to go around drooling at attractive men, I am after all only a woman and if men can do it and we lobby for equality, then hey, why can't we, right ;)  However I am now keenly aware of what my new 'type' is, it's the kind of thing that I can see in my future and as such I have changed my perspective of it all.